I'm going to agree with both sides in this discussion. *smiles*
"BE YOUR OWN SOULMATE
M.W., psychic and the creator of "The Five Second Life" quiz is back to share her secrets to identifying and achieving your heart's desires. In doing so, M.W. explains how you can become your own soulmate. This process requires that you reject the idea that only another person (the elusive soulmate) can bring you happiness, and embrace the power of your own will in achieving anything you can imagine.
Filled with specific details on identifying your heart's desires, then creating a plan to achieve them, this book is an ideal tool for making your dream a reality. There Are No Soulmates is a terrific way to help you prepare for the fantastic life you deserve, even if you're single."
*quote from this site*
http://www.ozztv.net/ozzbooks/banner_pr ... lmates.asp
Yeah, movies and fairytails have told us that there's somebody for everyone, and in reality, it's true, but unfortunately a helluva lot of the members of the human race never get to meet that someone. The world is a big place filled with millions of people, all different, and with all those people, it'd be hard to say that there isn't someone for everyone.
Swetha's got the answer down pretty well, my definition of 'soulmate' is a person that meshs well with you, and you with them. Being around them makes you happy, doing things with them is fun, etc. You can see where I'm going with this. A soulmate does not have to be a lover, they could be a very close friend, too, although most look at the term as meaning the love of your life.
But (yeah, the dreaded 'but')
you need to be happy with
yourself first and that can be a tough thing to do.
You need to find what makes
you happy within yourself. a sense of worth, so to speak, in your own eyes, and lots of people never find the answer to that. They look and look, and they find things that make 'em happy for a time, but soon they're lookin' again. But too many are lookin' in the wrong place first, outside at material things, rather than inside to define what they're really lookin' for first.
I've not read any of this author's works, so I can't really say whether this book is a good read, but she sounds like she's got the right idea.
tomas