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tricks to catch lies
How to Tell if a Person's Bluffing in
Any Situation
How would you like to know if the guy sitting across the poker
table from you really has a full house or just a pair of deuces?
Or if your top executive is serious about quitting if he doesn't
get a raise? There is a way to tell just about anytime, in any
situation, if someone is bluffing b ecause no matt er what th e
situation all bluffs have one thing in common.
To understand how this works let's define what a bluff really
is. A bluff occurs when a person is really against something
but pretends to be for it. Or when he is for something and
pretends to be ag ainst it. Consequently, when a person bluffs
he usually tries to appear as if he doesn't care when he really
does, and he pretends to be concerned when he really isn't.
In any case, he is trying to create a false impression
intended t o disguise his true belief. Therein lies the key:
People who bluff generally overcompensate, in either
direction, and if you look for it, it's glaringly obvious.
You can uncover a bluff instantly by noticing how someone
tries to appear. A card player bets heavily and raises the pot.
Does he have the cards or just guts? When bluffing—in
t his case, in a poker hand—he wants to show that he's not
timid. So he puts in his money fast. But if he did have a good
hand, what might he do? That's right, deliberat e a bit, putting
it in slowly to show that he isn't really sure about his hand.
When people bluff at anything, in poker or in the real world,
they manipulate how confident they appear. This means that
they try to create the opp osite impressio n of h ow they tru ly
feel.
Again, while bluffing , and in trying to appear confident, he
bets quickly. And when he has a good hand he will actually wait
a moment or two to pretend that he's thinking about what to do.
This goes for all situations. If he reacts too quickly and
assuredly then he is trying to show that he is confident, when
in many cases he really isn't.
Let's take another example. A partner in a law firm says he's
going to leave unless he is allowed to take on a certain case.
Is it a hollow threat or the real McCoy? If it was genuine, he
would likely not make a point of trying to convey his
confidence. Howe ver, an air of over-confidence will be easily
observed if he is bluffing. This is, of course, because we have
to assume that if he's at the firm then he wants to be there.
And that he will only be "forced" to leave if he doesn't get what
he's asking for. So logic dictates that he would rather stay and
get the case than not get it and leave. Therefore, if he
appears overly committed to the idea of leaving if he doesn't
get the case, then he's bluffing—because we know that he
really doesn't want to leave, but is trying to create that
impression.
If he is sincere in his stance that he will leave if he doesn't
get his way, then he will appear almost reluctant and not
overly confident in his stance because he's not pleased that
it has come down to this. He's more solemn because he
knows that he will have to leave if it comes down to it. But if
he was bluffing, it won't come down to anything, because he's
not leaving! The attitudes of both are completely diff erent and
make it clear whether it's a bluff or the real thing.
To understand the psychology behind this, we need only
look at how people handle themselves in general. A person
who has high self-esteem and confidence in himself is not
the one going around showing the world how great he is. It's
the insecure person who puts on airs of confidence, almost
arrogance, to compensate for how he really feels about
himself. He is, in fact, trying to convey a "false self." And as
we've just illustrated, this is identical and true for specific sit-
uations as well.
In a negotiation the person who keeps saying things such
as, "I'm gonna walk; you have to do right by me; I'm not
settling on this one: you're going to lose me," is not going
anywhere . . . he's bluff ing. Confidence in one's position
usually speaks for itself. Just as a person's confidence in
himself speaks for itself. It's the insecure who has to tell you
how confident he is because that's the only way that we're
going to find out. If, however, you hear something similar to
the following phrases in a negotiation, they likely reflect a
person who is sincere, and who is not bluffing: "I'm sorry that
you feel that way; no hard feelings; I don't think so, but let me
give it some thought." Remember that the confident
person—the one who is not bluffing— isn't interested in how
he's coming across. He's unconcerned with his image, unlike
his bluffing counterpart, who is consumed by others'
perceptions of him.
Strategy Review
Unco ver a bluff instant ly by noticing ho w the person tries
to appear. A person who is bluffing will always
overcompensate to create the illusion that he is 100 percent
behind his convictions.
Any Situation
How would you like to know if the guy sitting across the poker
table from you really has a full house or just a pair of deuces?
Or if your top executive is serious about quitting if he doesn't
get a raise? There is a way to tell just about anytime, in any
situation, if someone is bluffing b ecause no matt er what th e
situation all bluffs have one thing in common.
To understand how this works let's define what a bluff really
is. A bluff occurs when a person is really against something
but pretends to be for it. Or when he is for something and
pretends to be ag ainst it. Consequently, when a person bluffs
he usually tries to appear as if he doesn't care when he really
does, and he pretends to be concerned when he really isn't.
In any case, he is trying to create a false impression
intended t o disguise his true belief. Therein lies the key:
People who bluff generally overcompensate, in either
direction, and if you look for it, it's glaringly obvious.
You can uncover a bluff instantly by noticing how someone
tries to appear. A card player bets heavily and raises the pot.
Does he have the cards or just guts? When bluffing—in
t his case, in a poker hand—he wants to show that he's not
timid. So he puts in his money fast. But if he did have a good
hand, what might he do? That's right, deliberat e a bit, putting
it in slowly to show that he isn't really sure about his hand.
When people bluff at anything, in poker or in the real world,
they manipulate how confident they appear. This means that
they try to create the opp osite impressio n of h ow they tru ly
feel.
Again, while bluffing , and in trying to appear confident, he
bets quickly. And when he has a good hand he will actually wait
a moment or two to pretend that he's thinking about what to do.
This goes for all situations. If he reacts too quickly and
assuredly then he is trying to show that he is confident, when
in many cases he really isn't.
Let's take another example. A partner in a law firm says he's
going to leave unless he is allowed to take on a certain case.
Is it a hollow threat or the real McCoy? If it was genuine, he
would likely not make a point of trying to convey his
confidence. Howe ver, an air of over-confidence will be easily
observed if he is bluffing. This is, of course, because we have
to assume that if he's at the firm then he wants to be there.
And that he will only be "forced" to leave if he doesn't get what
he's asking for. So logic dictates that he would rather stay and
get the case than not get it and leave. Therefore, if he
appears overly committed to the idea of leaving if he doesn't
get the case, then he's bluffing—because we know that he
really doesn't want to leave, but is trying to create that
impression.
If he is sincere in his stance that he will leave if he doesn't
get his way, then he will appear almost reluctant and not
overly confident in his stance because he's not pleased that
it has come down to this. He's more solemn because he
knows that he will have to leave if it comes down to it. But if
he was bluffing, it won't come down to anything, because he's
not leaving! The attitudes of both are completely diff erent and
make it clear whether it's a bluff or the real thing.
To understand the psychology behind this, we need only
look at how people handle themselves in general. A person
who has high self-esteem and confidence in himself is not
the one going around showing the world how great he is. It's
the insecure person who puts on airs of confidence, almost
arrogance, to compensate for how he really feels about
himself. He is, in fact, trying to convey a "false self." And as
we've just illustrated, this is identical and true for specific sit-
uations as well.
In a negotiation the person who keeps saying things such
as, "I'm gonna walk; you have to do right by me; I'm not
settling on this one: you're going to lose me," is not going
anywhere . . . he's bluff ing. Confidence in one's position
usually speaks for itself. Just as a person's confidence in
himself speaks for itself. It's the insecure who has to tell you
how confident he is because that's the only way that we're
going to find out. If, however, you hear something similar to
the following phrases in a negotiation, they likely reflect a
person who is sincere, and who is not bluffing: "I'm sorry that
you feel that way; no hard feelings; I don't think so, but let me
give it some thought." Remember that the confident
person—the one who is not bluffing— isn't interested in how
he's coming across. He's unconcerned with his image, unlike
his bluffing counterpart, who is consumed by others'
perceptions of him.
Strategy Review
Unco ver a bluff instant ly by noticing ho w the person tries
to appear. A person who is bluffing will always
overcompensate to create the illusion that he is 100 percent
behind his convictions.
can we generalize ?
just wonder, sometimes when I play cards, I do it by chance, mere chance, even I cant judge how I will act, I tell myself," if the next person next to me rises his hand, I will smile, otherwise I will fold"
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