MissEm wrote:ps Did you know? With a newborn baby. Mummy has to feed every 2 hours, 24 hours a day for about 3 months. Try putting your alarm clock on every 2 hours, waking up preparing a bottle (In my case I had to do this) feeding baby about 15 minutes, changing nappy, burping, cleaning up spew, dressing baby again, go back to sleep, wake up again in another hour and 1 1/2 do it all again for minimum 3 months. Yes Samson put your alarm clock on for 2 hours sleep, then wake up for 1/2 hour, put your clock on for another 2 hours (Lucky you) and do it all again. Maybe after 2 days of this, you might start to understand. After 3 months we get 3 hours sleep instead of two. This goes on for many years.
And then multiply that by 10 times worse when they get a bit older say around 6 - 12 months and develop separation anxiety and want to cling to mummy (or daddy) all day - and mummy/daddy still has to shower, get breakfast/lunch/dinner, chores etc etc etc
I love my gorgeous little girl and I love being a mum and I certainly dont regret my decision at all but don't anyone tell me (or mums/dads) that its not hard work and just as demanding as physical type work or sitting in an office all day.
Love, peace and light to all!
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MissEm this is a continuation of your comments not an attack to you.
Sweetheart, you know as well as I know, it's more demanding. I feel for you. To think employment is more important than a child's wellbeing (I'm not meaning you, I'm meaning society as a whole). This world is disgraceful to Mums and yet it's men who seem to put us all down. Where do they think they come from? Always a woman. Whether you like your Mum or not, you need to give thanks that she gave birth to you, otherwise you wouldn't be here.
If children are abused by parents, underfed, unnourished, the children are taken away from them, Apparently for their own protection (In some instances this is the right thing to do). To tell a woman single or not, she has to go to work to make money to provide for her family when her children are under the school age and 100% dependent on her is more than abuse. To see a child screaming Mummy Mummy when she has to leave is heartbreaking. This child knows nothing of money, this child only knows Mummy loves him/her and that Mummy is her/his security.
With women Like MissEm (Single with children).
She has to get up early in the morning to feed her child, have a shower, get breakfast for both of them, get ready for work, try and feel alive at the same time, dress baby who is only 1 1/2 yo., get bottles, nappies and clothing, snacks and everything a baby needs for a whole day (this in itself is like having to move home everyday), Make her own lunch, Check that she has everything needed. This is before leaving home.
Then she has to get her child to daycare say a very very teary and emotional goodbye, get through peak hour traffic to make sure she is at work on time. Then try and take a few deep breaths for what can be a very stressful days employed work. Longing to be with her child, not knowing what is the right thing to do for her child as regard to working or not) knowing that without the money they could become homeless or starving. After work getting through peak hour traffic to pick up a beautiful bundle of joy who doesn't know why Mummy leaves her/him, get home, make dinner for both, bath child, play games (education), read a story, put them to bed (hope they stay there and go to sleep peacefully). Then maybe another few deep breaths and probably 15-30 minutes of exhaustive crying while cleaning up after dinner. Unpacking babies bags, washing and sterilizing bottles, washing babies clothes, cleaning pusher/pram.
All of this has to be done every day. We haven't even touched on cleaning the house, organizing and paying bills, doing the shopping, unpacking the shopping, washing the clothes, linen, changing beds/cots, vacuuming, dusting, Making sure the petrol is in the car.... and remember poor MissEm or other Mum/Dad hasn't even had time out to relax and rejuvenate their own energy sources. To recharge their batteries.
By my estimation of time needed:
Wake up 15 minutes
Wake up baby in a healthy way 15 minutes.
feed baby 20-25 minutes
burping baby 10-15 minutes
Have a shower 10-15 minutes
Make up, hair etc (for work) 20-25 minutes
Organize breakfast for both 10-15 minutes
clean up 5-10 minutes minimum
burping baby 10-15 minutes
Organize babies bottles and other things for whole day 30-40 minutes
Dress baby 10-15 minutes
Make lunch, snacks 10-15 minutes
Check that you've got everything 5-10 minutes
Put baby in car and pack car 5-10 minutes
warm up the car 5 minutes
Add an extra 15-30 minutes depending on how much baby is sick after each meal.
So far this is 3-4 hours of stressful work for a single parent and any parent at that. There shouldn't be any stress involved but there usually is. It is definitely strenuous.
And this is in the morning we haven't even touched the evening.
To make children be away from them for such a long time is cruelty to children.
To men: One day I hope alot of people wake up and start to respect women for what they do to ensure you have a life when you grow up. It is the first 5 years of life that make or break who you will be in the future.
Ask all orphans, speak to orphans, You will find out how shattered they are and feel due to not having parents. This generation of lost children due to their parents being at work is not fair to mother or child.
Spending tens if not hundreds of billions of dollars on war and murder during war and weapons is OK but not letting children have their Mum at home where she is needed for 5-10 years that is NOT OK. HA!!! It's a disgrace.
Wake up and smell the roses!!!!!!! If the government cared more about our family environment and the rights of children, imagine how happy our world if not country would be.
If you ask any child what they want the answer will be MUMMY and Daddy.
If they had to choose one, then it would be MUMMY.
Remember you all come from women.
Sorry MissEm this is not directed at you. I had the impulse and went with it. If something isn't right I know you'll let me know. I'm sure I have said most of what is needed to be said.
If a woman
wants to work she really shouldn't have the children who want to be with her. Being a Mum is More than a full time job and to expect her to do a full time job as well is like slavery.
Give women the choice. If they want to work let them. If not be assured that heaven has good reason to applaud those for their choice and the community will grow with unconditional love and true happiness in return. When the time is right they will find their work and prosper for it. Everyone will gain from this.
I'll stop now
Samson Read this!!!!!!!!