Would love another reading EOT, appreciated

[Indigo11]

Dear Eye of Tiger,

This is Amit again. born of 28/06/1989. 11.28am, Birmingham, England. As always I understand the rules.

I'm only 23 and feel left out. The reason I feel like this is simple, by my family.

So, I waffled around between 16-19, took a degree in Business, failed a couple of years and dropped out at 23. I've never had a supermarket job or passed my driving test. I had a fun time at college and university, but I'm doing my own thing. So at 23, I've achieved nothing and my family has not opinion.

My sister has had a job since she was 17 and has graduated now. She travels a lot too. I'm not comparing myself, but my family will, and they are already saying to me "why can't I be like my sister or go on holidays"

I am going to go to a party on 31/3 this year and there will be a couple of older ladies I like but my aunties will be sitting by them and will just say when they ask about me "I am doing nothing, absolutely nothing", causing every other lady on that table to have low opinions of me. They will compare me with my sister, saying she is more successful.

The problem is, I'm a bit shy in front of my family and quiet. It doesn't help that my father doesn't even speak well about me. Some of my uncles and aunties are comparing me and ae questioning my level of intelligence, social ability and even the chances of getting a good women as well as do I even have a life?

MY AUNTIES don't even say what am I going to do! They could at least ask me what I'm going to do or what are my ambitions, they never say this! So they may hold the opinion I'm wasting my life. It's hard because rumours may fly around.

My family don't really smile at me to say hello or make eye-contact while saying goodbye. They hardly mention 'my name' which suggests they don't hold me of any importance. I just came back to visit my grandma in hospital and none of my uncles and aunties made eye-contact or said bye when I was leaving in the hospital.

THERE IS THIS ONE 22 year old lady I remember at a sports match when I was fielding for my team which she said "he doesn't look back because he is scared and he never talks" even though she knows I'm shy, how can I deal with her?

So I feel left out and left out in the world, its like I can't socialise and people are looking down on me.

What can I do? I'm only 23 and feel like the world is against me. Its a hard feeling.

[eye_of_tiger]

Amit,

http://mysticboard.org/vi ... 826#321826

We have a minimum of one month between consecutive reading requests rule on this forum.

8. Please do not ask for multiple readings and please do not ask for readings too frequently, this is thought of as abusing the goodwill of our readers, and your posts will be locked and any more requests will be moved to the thread jail. As a guideline please leave at least one month between requests. Some of our readers request a longer break between, as nothing will have changed, and for some only one reading per lifetime will be given.

Therefore you will not be eligible again to receive a reading on this board until at least April 6th (this request was made on March 6th).

Consequently the following friendly advice is not to be regarded in any way as a reading.

It is clear from this request that you measure your own self worth by what other people say or do not say about you, rather than what you have achieved in spite of your low self esteem.

By doing this you are unknowingly setting yourself up for a life of social isolation and loneliness.

While much of this may have been a learned response as you were growing up to what other family members said or did not say to you that you wanted them to, you are now an adult and must not continue to use this as an excuse for what is happening now.

Playing the blame game with your family members is only wasting valuable time and energy which would be better spent in exploring why you always value the ideas and opinions of other people above your own, and what you can do of a practical nature to stop doing this and stand up more for your right to have your own ideas and opinions equally listened to and acted upon.

Much of this exploration of why you are still socially awkward and why you do not think you are as good as the next person is is a job for a psychologist or counsellor, and not a psychic reader.

A reading given sometime after April 6th could only possibly offer you some extra insights or another person's viewpoint (mine) to help you decide what you can realistically do to change your reactions in a social setting for the better IN COMBINATION WITH YOU CONSULTING A PROFESSIONALLY QUALIFIED PSYCHOLOGIST OR COUNSELLOR IN YOUR COMMUNITY.

Speak to you again with a reading either on or any day after April 6th.

Under a new thread please!

Be more of a friend to yourself,

EoT  :smt003