Hey Dhav,
Anchors like most things in life have their inevitable disadvantages.
While they can keep you from drifting aimlessly through life and give you something solid to hold onto for a sense of security and consistency, they can equally hold you back and drag you down. Life is meant to be about forward movement and us successfully adapting to change in our environment, but anchors are primarily designed to stop something or someone from moving in any direction, or changing the location.
So while I agree that you often need something to give your life greater stability and an increased feeling that you do have some measure of control over what happens to you, instead of something like an anchor which holds you in the same place over an extended period of time, you need something more portable which you can carry around with you, but can still be your foundation and stabilizer until it is once more time to move on again.
Now back in March of this year you told us that you had resigned from your job after unexpectedly not finding your name on the promotion list. This sad news was then counterbalanced by your understandably joyous announcement that you had got another job which was far less stressful, and in which you could work from home if you wanted to. It had a better salary and you would get to go to the UK for the first 3 months.
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I cannot read at what stage you are now with this job and your working holiday, and this reading is certainly not my attempt to put a damper on what a wonderful feeling it must have been for you to escape long term unemployment. You really put all your energies and determination into making sure that you quickly got off the unemployment queue and preserved your sense of self worth and dignity in doing so.
But now you have got the job and you are hopefully well on the way to proving yourself to be indispensable to the company and your employer, you are feeling like a high school or college student who has just finished her final examination. In other words you have been working so intensely upon getting back into the work force as soon as possible, that now that you have achieved your goal you urgently need new goals to focus your energies upon in its place.
You feel like you are now drifting randomly in all directions like a boat which has lost its sails or its engine has stopped, and its rudder has been broken and as if it could not get any worse it appears to have lost its anchor. Because while you were trying to get back into the job market you could not think about what comes after. And now it is after. And you cannot think off the top of your head as to what those new goals will or should be.
This is NOT the time for you to put down another anchor to hold you where you are now, indefinitely. Yes you do need to restore a sense of stability and reestablish a firm foundation on which to build your new goals, but using something which you can move forwards with. An anchor replacement which you can take with you into any situation you may come up against in the future.
One common anchor which effectively holds a person in one place much longer than is healthy is the job they do. While your job is an important part of your life, there is much more to who you are than what your work is. People often come up against this when thy are unemployed or ready to retire. Because they have identified themselves to other people as doing that line of work, if they feel in danger of losing that paid job, they basically feel that they no longer have any identity.
What is one of the first things that most people ask you when you first meet them socially (after commenting about the weather)? What job do you do, or how do you earn your living? The danger of doing this is that society tends to measure our value as a person by what job we do and how much we are paid each year. So when you have no paid job people avoid the subject, because they realize how sensitive many of us are about this. Which only makes us feel more isolated from other people, with negative consequences for our health on many levels.
What this reading is saying is do not allow any job which you might have now or in the future to become your anchor, holding you back. Do not entirely define or measure who you are as a person by your main paid job. By all means do your best, but o not become so immersed in your work that you should sacrifice what is important to you in your life as a whole, and as part of your soul's journey. Instead of using your job alone as an anchor holding you back and potentially dragging you down, instead use the most effective portable foundation and stabilizer of all - your own true Self.
The reading suggests that once you have a well paying job, think back to the hopes and dreams of your childhood which you were forced to give up on or put aside as you grew into an adult and needed to find paid work. Do something voluntarily or as a leisure time hobby which is in line with those childhood hopes and dreams, but which is not satisfied by your job.
Something which you love doing purely for the pleasure and enjoyment of which satisfies parts of your personality which have so far not found expression in any of your jobs. For by doing this you will be getting closer to finding your most effective portable foundation and stabilizer which will only hold you in one place only as long as it is necessary to do so - YOUR TRUE SELF.
Loving regards,
EoT
