Dearest Rhutobello and Nityasree,
It is clear to me after reading your posts that you are both wonderful, concerned and passionate individuals who make valid and positive submissions based on your own individual life experiences and unique points of view.
Look, what makes life a thing to celebrate is the sheer variety of opinions, experiences and insights that await us - a karmic classroom, if you may. And like I said, there are no teachers, only students, which means that we can all learn wonderful lessons from each other if only we 'listen'
The moment we let our guard down, thankfulness turns to pride and we stop being students.
Nityasree, I have given you the mantras in order to the best of my very limited ability, but the fact is that your hubby has to do all of them anyway, so really they are not optional in that sense
I think Rhutobello, who is much more life-experienced and wiser than us, is perhaps only saying that you must now immerse yourself with total faith in the execution of your karmic duties and not stress yourself unduly over the fruits of your labor. I will always be here for you, no matter how many questions you may have, all I ask I ask in return is that you empty your mind of worries and open your arms to God
And that includes being thankful for the ability we have to recognize the wisdom of others. You are a wonderful person because you have such love and concern for your husband, even through his hardest times. That is something we must all admire and aspire to. I only ask that you spread that capacity you have for love to everyone else you come into contact with as well. Always contest matters on principle and wisdom, not on apparent content
Rhutobello, you are elder to us and deserving of our respect and humility. I understand that you want the very best for Nityasree and I know she sees this as well. Youth is always curious and energetic and that is how it is meant to be. Age brings wisdom, purpose and stillness in the way we see things and in the understanding that it is the execution of our karma that is all important. But how can there ever be Maturity in the absence of Youth?
We cannot be born wise, we must earn and attain it by experiencing the joys, follies and disappointment of our younger selves. What you advise her on is correct, and so to is the passion she displays. But if you would only approach each other with love and respect, like good life-students, it will become wonderfully clear that it is the best interests of Nityasree that you both have at heart
May God bless you both with infinite love and gift you the joy of an everlasting friendship. That is my wish for you.
God bless
