Dealing with grief
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Dealing with grief
In the past year, I have lost 2 cousins, 1 uncle and a VERY close friend. The only one I got to say good bye to was my uncle. The 2 cousins died unexpectedly and quickly.
The problem I'm having is with my friend who passed away. I didn't find out that he was sick until 5 months after he was in the hospital. By that time, he was unresponsive and in a coma. I chose not to go visit him because I didn't want to see him that way. I wanted to remember him for who he was before he got sick. I know I made the right choice by not going to see him however, I miss him very much. There were some "unresolved" issues. There were things I never got the chance to tell him. Now I have major regrets about it and I'm trying to figure out how to deal with it. I know that he is happy where he is now and he doesn't care about what happened in the past but I'm still here and it bothers me.
The problem I'm having is with my friend who passed away. I didn't find out that he was sick until 5 months after he was in the hospital. By that time, he was unresponsive and in a coma. I chose not to go visit him because I didn't want to see him that way. I wanted to remember him for who he was before he got sick. I know I made the right choice by not going to see him however, I miss him very much. There were some "unresolved" issues. There were things I never got the chance to tell him. Now I have major regrets about it and I'm trying to figure out how to deal with it. I know that he is happy where he is now and he doesn't care about what happened in the past but I'm still here and it bothers me.
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Hi Clover,
All before me have the best advice.
Do what they say.
From me, They all know how much they meant to you, and you to them.
You didn't meantioned your cousins. Very sorry for them. I am assuming that your issues have never been issues with them. Very good for you all.
With your friend, I have done the same thing. I want to remember them how they were. I knew they would never hold it against me, because they would not have either.
You should never have regrets. You live and learn from your expieriences. If you have regrets, you didn't learn. he knows where you are coming from, and he feels the same.
You both have another time to fix this. Don't dweal on it, time will heal. Even though you are not together now,, you will be.
He says to love yourself and live life to the fullest. He is doing the same where he is. He is waiting for you like you are waiting for him.
A HUGE HHHUUUUGGG, positive energy and lots of love to you both.
Karlene
All before me have the best advice.
Do what they say.
From me, They all know how much they meant to you, and you to them.
You didn't meantioned your cousins. Very sorry for them. I am assuming that your issues have never been issues with them. Very good for you all.
With your friend, I have done the same thing. I want to remember them how they were. I knew they would never hold it against me, because they would not have either.
You should never have regrets. You live and learn from your expieriences. If you have regrets, you didn't learn. he knows where you are coming from, and he feels the same.
You both have another time to fix this. Don't dweal on it, time will heal. Even though you are not together now,, you will be.
He says to love yourself and live life to the fullest. He is doing the same where he is. He is waiting for you like you are waiting for him.
A HUGE HHHUUUUGGG, positive energy and lots of love to you both.
Karlene
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Im sorry to hear that.....Your friend has forgiven you for whatever it is you feel badly about....You need to forgive yourself also,set yourself free....When we move on to the other side all is forgiven and filled with love....Talk and pray,your friend will hear you....Heres some *huggles* and my love going to you.
Tamara :o)
Tamara :o)
Thank you
Once again I'm so greatful. Not only because I found this wonderful website but, because of all the positive and loving people I've come into contact with today. All your caring words and positive suggestions have filled me with an overwhelming sense of peace that I never thought I would be able to obtain. I will sleep well tonight knowing that I still have him around me. I'll continue to talk to him and pray that he will show me a sign or communicate with me in his own little way.
Thank you again and blessings to all
Kimberly
Thank you again and blessings to all
Kimberly
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I just got a call from my Mom. She told me that another one of our family friends died. They just had his funeral on Friday but, I missed it because we just found out tonight. Since my Mom has been dealing with the death of my Cousin's wife 3 weeks ago, she hasn't been home that much so she missed the phone call about the funeral last week. This is really crazy now. That makes 5 people that have died in the last 13 months. (2 Cousins, 1 Uncle, my ex-boyfriend and 2 friends.) What is up with this?? I don't think I have ever even heard of anything like this before. I've heard people say that deaths happen in 3's but this is weird and sad.
K
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I was starting to freak out a little bit last night. I was telling my Fiance to be careful everytime he left the house or went outside to do something. haha. I feel a lot better today though. I know when it's your time to go there's a reason. I know they are all in a much better place than we are.
I read what you said about my friend to my Mom last night too. She knew my ex boyfriend and she said that you were right on about him too.
Also, I'm sorry to hear that you lost 3 friends this year. Prayers and hugs to you and them.
Kimberly
I read what you said about my friend to my Mom last night too. She knew my ex boyfriend and she said that you were right on about him too.
Also, I'm sorry to hear that you lost 3 friends this year. Prayers and hugs to you and them.
Kimberly
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