need a hug and some advice

WhoseLineBabygirl · Post by **WhoseLineBabygirl** » Fri Jun 13, 2008 1:45 am

today i talked to someone i havent talked to in a year because her and a few of my other "friends" abandoned me when they found out a bad thing about another ex friend of mine(very complicated so i wont get into that) long story short they stopped talking to me and litterly abandoned me when i needed them the most. One of them IMed me today and told me about a few rumors that have been going around about me and then we started talking about other stuff, after our convo i suddenly felt really depressed and old feelings of her not talking to me a year ago started to surface. Now i dont know what to do should i continue talking to her or should i just move on with my life and leave that part of my past behind me?

Scouser'sgal · Post by **Scouser'sgal** » Fri Jun 13, 2008 4:10 am

 Sweetie,
Take from me, these supposed friends are SO not worth your being depressed as you are. A true friend stands with you regardless of anything.
They sound young, callow and selfish. Reading your posts as I have since
joining here, you truly seem to be a good person. Maybe at this time of
your life still sweet.
Guess what, that is a wonderful way to be. Let their memories fade and look
ahead. YOU ARE WORTH IT.

janke · Post by **janke** » Fri Jun 13, 2008 7:28 am

Real friends would not abandon you, no matter what.

It is normal to feel depressed if your past flashes past you all the time.

Just hang in there, I will pray for you!!!!

 (There was no icon for a hug, so here is a kiss)

starsign20002000 · Post by **starsign20002000** » Fri Jun 13, 2008 10:32 am

I agree with Scouser'sgal and Janke that real friends would not abandon you at the time of need.  I think you need to move on also from the past year.  You are a good person.  Hugs and positive energy sent to you.

Rhutobello · Post by **Rhutobello** » Fri Jun 13, 2008 11:26 am

I agree with them above, but maybe you can show them a better person.

With that I don't mean you shall befriend them, if you don't want, but talk to them if that is what you fancy most, but keep your guard, don't give them any ammunition, by that I mean, don't talk cruel about any of them, don't complain and keep it as any other "Neighbors" that you have to talk too, but not befriend.

It's funny, rumors always arise when a person are not present, by having a normal attitude towards the group, you might prevent some rumors, but not all, we humans like to talk about other, that move the problems away from ourself

A good side effect is, like you stated, if you talk with them, you might hear those rumors, and if there is nothing in them, use it to make yourself stronger

Never let such friends bring you down, only if they tell the truth are you able to change anything, take it as envy or to show how narrow they are

WhoseLineBabygirl · Post by **WhoseLineBabygirl** » Fri Jun 13, 2008 1:11 pm

well she did give me some useful information which is the only time she ever talks to me. *shrugs* thanks for the hugs everybody!

janke · Post by **janke** » Fri Jun 13, 2008 1:26 pm

You're welcome

soul_flower · Post by **soul_flower** » Fri Jun 13, 2008 2:41 pm

I'll keep it short and sweet.....Any so called friends who ditch you arent your real friends.....For me i could not place my trust in someone again if they did that too me.....I say you are better than that and dont need that type of person in your life...However if you like this girl then maybe its worth trying to work out if its what you want....After all everyone makes mistakes.....But i think you could do so much better as you're a good person....*huggles* and my love going to you.

Tamara :o)

WhoseLineBabygirl · Post by **WhoseLineBabygirl** » Fri Jun 13, 2008 6:44 pm

thanks. *huggles*

Nicole · Post by **Nicole** » Fri Jun 13, 2008 10:44 pm

I'm the same way I let ppl hurt me then I say Oh they didn't mean it..
I forgive all the time, & I will the next time also..
But there is a time in our lives we just don't want the petty crap involved in our lives any more...

Your on the ball, let them know who's boss for now on.. <*Smiles*>
Your worth it don't let people drag you down along with them...
They just need to be mean because there life is a mess...

Hugs and smile your good person..

WhoseLineBabygirl · Post by **WhoseLineBabygirl** » Fri Jun 13, 2008 11:18 pm

thanks Nicole!

xaxaa · Post by **xaxaa** » Sun Jun 15, 2008 6:11 pm

Hey,
I think you should leave back what happened and give her a second chance!Everybody deserves one!
Of course that doesn't mean that you can trust her immediately!Just give her a chance to prove you that
she's OK and she deserves to be your friend!
Nobody is perfect!Just keep going and of course follow your heart's advice

WhoseLineBabygirl · Post by **WhoseLineBabygirl** » Sun Jun 15, 2008 8:04 pm

eh...i would but i think im better off not being her friend....i like to put the past behind me now and move forward

kanikadas · Post by **kanikadas** » Tue Jun 17, 2008 12:15 pm

I have been through the same experience. There is so much anger when you are not treated right. The hurt is more so because of the anger. Letting go is hard.
I am trying my hand at it but there are so many hurtful moments which come up. For me it has been 10 years since. I am still making my way towards forgiving them.
I believe i wil be successful. And as far as getting back to being friends, find out whether thay have the same intensity as you.
SO i hope i will be of some inspiration to you.

CCLady · Post by **CCLady** » Fri Jun 27, 2008 8:23 am

I agree with the others. True friends will be with you always no matter what. You may fight or disagree but true friends are there when you need them. Hang in there. Do what you feel is right. Pray and do what your heart is telling you to do. I have a couple of friends that abanded me but they came back a few years later. I still talk to them over the phone or over the computer but I don.t socialise with them. I ma not telling you to do that but you do what you feel is right to do. You do need to forgive becuase you won't be able to move on until you do. Believe me I know. I will be praying for you. May God Bless.

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