Underappreciated

[question&wisdom]

My boyfriend and I have been together for a few months now.
And as of lately I feel unwanted by him,
The deal is that he hates long dstance relationships.  Yet he states that he wants to be with me.  Well, when I met him I told him I would be in school and that I would be needing to return to the home base for the school which is 4 hours from him.  everything was fine.  We enjoyed eachother while in the same city, and at first the distance seemed to be no problem.  he even wanted to make the relationship more serious and be monogomous to eachother and making eachother our one and only (so to speak).

Now 2 months later, I cant even get him to call (I understand he is not a phone person but if that is all we have is it to much to at least get a text message??).  I have made two attempts to go out of my way to spend time with him and he has made other plans (even though I told him in advance)...his excuse is he is just a sporadic person.  He will drive 3 1/2 hrs to visit family but has stated he does not want to drive the 4 hrs to spend a weekend with me.

We both have our faults, and I wont pretend I am perfect, but I wish things would work out.  I do care about him and was really hoping to settle down with him.  As of now we just decided to do the friend thing until I move closer again (which I will in May be only an hour away).  i am afraid he will move on and my heart will be broken yet again....

[RoseRed]

So many hugs to you!
As I am in a similar position and its just gone from bad to worse recently. Not great when you have NB exams to think about about aswell.
But such is life hey...

so........<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<HUGSSSSSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
and lots of love and strength....

I know you think he is da man, well could potentially be THAT guy, but in my opinion if he can't be mature enough to appreciate you now then I think your paths need to separate for the time being, take your energy out of it and you go and enjoy your life.
If your paths are meant to cross again they will. Have faith in that.
He's not the guy for you right now....read this.

be open to all relationships - you never know when a friend met is the one you are seeking. &nbsp;

Reason, Season, Lifetime

People &nbsp;come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. &nbsp;
When you know which one it is, you will know what to do &nbsp;for that person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, &nbsp;it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have &nbsp;come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with &nbsp;guidance and support,
to aid you physically, emotionally &nbsp;or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. &nbsp;
They are there for the reason you need them to be. &nbsp;

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an &nbsp;inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to &nbsp;bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. &nbsp;Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force &nbsp;you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need &nbsp;has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. &nbsp;
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is &nbsp;time to move on.

Some &nbsp;people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has &nbsp;come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience &nbsp;of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something &nbsp;you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable &nbsp;amount of joy.
Believe it, it is real. But only for a &nbsp;season.

LIFETIME &nbsp;relationships teach you lifetime lessons,
things you must &nbsp;build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. &nbsp;
Your job is to accept the lesson,
love the person and &nbsp;put what you have learned to use in all other relationships &nbsp;and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but &nbsp;friendship is clairvoyant.

I think, in my opinion, there is some stuff that you need to experience on ya own for a little bit.
Maybe you'll even meet someone better!
I know thats no consolation and not the 'correct' way of thinking but I think you know what I mean...open yourself up, let yourself free to experience some new adventures!

[question&wisdom]

Thanks &nbsp;I totally understand and feel what you are saying...
HUGS back!!!

[maan09]

I am in the same situation as what you have right now. Here is a big hug, just be strong =)

[taraprincess]

sweetie here is a huge hug....much love and huggies

[Castitatis Lilium]

Much *HUGGIES* for you!

[question&wisdom]

Thank you all for the hugs!!! &nbsp;And wonderful words of wisdom