I lost my best friend.

[psychoticblades]

I lost my temper with my best friend because she's so inconsiderate and selfish. Finally, when I had calmed down, I offered to talk about it with her when she also calmed down. I apologized sincerely and meant well.

But she blew up in my face, playing the suicide card, guilt card, and karma card. She's still alive, but she did say she felt suicidal---oh, and she never even told me. How lovely. I could have helped her had she mentioned that I was making her feel that way.

Second, as far as the guilt card goes, it's not immediately obvious but she did mean for me to feel guilty for my actions, which sort of goes hand-in-hand with her telling me that karma will get me sooner or later.

Basically, we just got into a huge fight, and she refuses to make up with me now, even though this is my first offense against her in two years. This is the ONLY time I've treated her like this, yet she thinks karma will come and bite me. She knows what I'm going through and she says all these things to me.

Plus, I'm on my own learning about myself through my natal chart now. Sure, it's just for entertainment, but I still like to see what astrology says about me. I like to measure its accuracy.

No hugs are required, no replies are even necessary. I just wanted to vent, and I hope I did it in the right place.

[suzisco]

You vented in the right place.
Sounds like your friend is pretty emotional and inconsiderate of your feelings.
Who plays the I am going to kill my self game?  Normal rational people or insecure selfish people?
I think that this person is damaging to you and perhaps you should never make up and you should move on.
There are people out there who would value your friendship and value you and would never say these nasty things to you.

Much love

Suzi

[psychoticblades]

Thank you. I can't make up with her, and I refuse to hear her out if she tries making up with me.

[symulhaque]

A big hug to you.

[symulhaque]

Both of you should control your angers my dear friend. Man becomes blind when in anger,

[George]

I lost my temper with my best friend because she's so inconsiderate and selfish. Finally, when I had calmed down, I offered to talk about it with her when she also calmed down. I apologized sincerely and meant well.

But she blew up in my face, playing the suicide card, guilt card, and karma card. She's still alive, but she did say she felt suicidal---oh, and she never even told me. How lovely. I could have helped her had she mentioned that I was making her feel that way.

Second, as far as the guilt card goes, it's not immediately obvious but she did mean for me to feel guilty for my actions, which sort of goes hand-in-hand with her telling me that karma will get me sooner or later.

Basically, we just got into a huge fight, and she refuses to make up with me now, even though this is my first offense against her in two years. This is the ONLY time I've treated her like this, yet she thinks karma will come and bite me. She knows what I'm going through and she says all these things to me.

Plus, I'm on my own learning about myself through my natal chart now. Sure, it's just for entertainment, but I still like to see what astrology says about me. I like to measure its accuracy.

No hugs are required, no replies are even necessary. I just wanted to vent, and I hope I did it in the right place.

i have nothing profound to offer but i will give you a big hug and hope you find your way.

[vertika-faujdar]

Hmmm... seemingly you both are choleric and emotional too than move on is the best option at that time you did the same it was good for you both because in the fullness of time every thing will be fine and you both will be happy again in your lives...

[Duchess1964]

I have a friend ... we've known each other for almost 40 years now.  In that time, I think I lost count the number of times we pissed each other off or stopped speaking for times on end.  The worse was when her parents paid me to push her away.  I took the money, did what they wanted then gave their money back to them.  That was the second time they had done that.  My friend and I went almost 2 years without speaking to each other.

Not that you should go that long or even could, but with the selfish attitude that seems apparent in your friend, perhaps you may remind her that karma works on BOTH of you and hers is not perfect.  Also she is responsible for HER, you are not.  If she has thoughts that are less than good, then that is her problem, all you can do is listen.  You cannot change her.

Good luck to you and ... hugs