Oh, Jane, why does everybody seem to always ask about THE subject? You would think we are all really unsure when dealing with love, which is probably true, actually.
I confess I hate reading on this subject because it involves another person and his/her feelings. If the outcome of this reading gets to influence you enough to make a decision that might hurt that person, is it really fair?
Would it not be best to listen to your heart, listen to your dreams, listen to someone who loves you and knows both of you enough to give you good counsel? No? You leave me no choice then, but forewarned is forearmed.
By
pirbid
What you have What you want What you need
The first position could also be interpreted as your conscious view on the relationship. The second as your feelings about it. And the third as a suggestion from your inner guide, who probably knows best.
You see your boyfriend as a practical and dependable kind of person, but maybe that is not what makes you tick. You probably find him boring, not very daring, hardly romantic, too predictable to spend the rest of your life with. He hardly seems the kind of guy to be unfaithful, so you may rest easy on that. And yes, he is probably ready to commit, although a bit immature yet. But is that really what YOU want?
What you really seem to want is to get to know yourself better so that you may know your real feelings for this person before taking any drastic steps. You have a powerful intuition working with you, so listen to it and make the most of it. Talk to yourself, instead of asking others. Also, you might need to wait passively until the situation is mature enough to take a step forward.
What you need is to work with your boyfriend towards building a strong relationship: talk over anything you may feel unsure about, like his fidelity or his intentions for the future. Then you may both be in a better position to decide how far you want to go and if you are really meant for each other.
Hmm... I just saw a very similar reading request in the reading forum and was unable to do a reading. I knew as much about that person as about Jane, so I wondered "Is this the kind of person who will take card advice too seriously, even with obsession? Is she too young to read for?". And, most of all, "if the reading comes out negative and she decides to leave him, is that the right decision? would not the boy like to kill me for it? would it not be absurdly unfair?"
Honest, this reading has given me a headache. Probably knowing Jane is fictitious is what enabled me to do it, because I really believe those are very unfair questions to put to anybody: at most, I would do a reading for myself if in need, but I very much doubt it. I am pretty sure I would refuse to do it for a real person, unless it was a good friend and it was clear we were just doing it for a laugh. :smt011